A Simple Guide to Becoming the Most Interesting Person in the Room
It is human nature that we want to connect with others, want to be valued, and want to be popular.
When we see popular people who always seem witty, interesting, and charismatic, we keep wondering ourselves: how can we become them? Or, how can we also become the most interesting person in the room?
If you ask me these questions, the first answers that come to my mind are very simple:
Be your authentic self, mind your own business, don’t be a people pleaser, just please yourself.
But when I think twice, I have a different point of view.
Being an interesting person is not simply about you, it is also about how you interact with others.
Today, I am going to share with you a simple guide to becoming the most interesting person in the room.
The definition of an interesting person
There is no strict definition of an interesting person, as it is quite subjective. It varies from one person to the other depending on their own opinions.
From my viewpoint, an interesting person should be someone who can connect with people, who shows empathy, and who can make us appreciate their companions.
An interesting person should be authentic, interested in others, not self-centered, and well-connected with others.
How to become the most interesting person in the room?
Rule 1: Be your authentic self
Being your authentic self has countless advantages, they also apply to becoming the most interesting person.
First, no one would like to make personal connections with a fake person.
Think about it, have you ever considered a fake person as interesting? Although the jokes from a fake person can be funny, they only bring laughter for a few minutes.
Why? Because they do not connect with others. They live under their masks and the others can’t discover what kind of people they are. If people don’t know who they truly are, how can they connect with them? How can they be seen as interesting?
Second, it takes no effort to be your authentic self.
The less effort you spend on pretending who you truly are, the more effort you can put into listening to others and exchanging ideas with them.
Living under the mask requires enormous effort to maintain that fake image.
Rule 2: Care about others
Since you don’t just want to think of yourself as interesting, you also want others to think you are interesting. It is important to care about others.
1. Be kind and respectful
I think this is what everyone should be in all circumstances. Treat everyone with kindness and respect. Be a good person and show care for others.
2. Be a good listener
We have two ears and one mouth. Why? Because we are supposed to listen more and talk less.
Show real interest in others, listen to them actively, and engage in meaningful conversations.
Very often, when the listener hears the speaker share some personal experiences that they also have in common, instead of engaging in the speaker’s stories, the listener starts to share their own.
It is ok to share your experiences for a meaningful discussion, but please put your focus on the speaker first.
3. Be empathetic and understanding
Be empathetic to others. Don’t be judgemental.
We don’t know the past experiences of everyone and how the past shapes who they are today.
Be understanding, try to understand others by thinking: what would I do and feel if I were in their shoes?
4. Be humble
Don’t be arrogant. Don’t be egoistic. Don’t be self-centered.
Rule 3: Let people get to know you better
How can others judge if you are interesting or not if they don’t know you enough? You need to let people get to know you well.
1. Share your stories
People tend to connect with each other better by sharing personal experiences.
Personal stories can be what happened in the past, what you are doing at the moment, what adventures you had, and what new travel plans you are making right now. The more genuine, the better.
2. Share your perspectives
Be open and bold to share your perspectives. We get to know a person better by getting to know what they think and what makes them think like that.
3. Share your knowledge
Share with others your knowledge, and what you think are interesting and helpful. If you are wondering how to be knowledgeable? The answer is simple: read and learn.
There is not a single intelligent person in the world who doesn’t like reading.
Read, read, read.
Reading is a process that helps you to gain new viewpoints, attain new knowledge, and shape your thinking system.
You can also watch some good films, and series, go to exhibitions etc.
Don’t just watch a film for the sake of watching it and spending time. Think deeper about what you can learn from it and what message it is trying to convey. If you do it, you will soon be surprised at the progress of your thought development. The same applies to TV shows and exhibitions.
Learn from others. As the Chinese proverb says:
“Three people walking together, there will be one I can learn from.”
You can always learn from others.
What is your definition of an interesting person? What do you think we can do to become one? Share your thoughts in the comments.
